GIVING TO OTHERS, BUT NOT RECEIVING – WHAT WAS I THINKING?

My Master Key Experience 2020/21: Year 2, Week 4


Posted on October 20, 2020 by Darren Davis


The Law of Giving & Receiving.

I was introduced to this law seriously in late 2019 and have been reading the short script below almost every morning since. It is coupled with a strict MKE routine of other newly introduced habits from then.

I have always believed in karma and the saying, “What goes around comes around”, but to have this brilliant tool introduced into my life and knowing how much I have benefited out of it now, I am simply so grateful. Who would have known? And this is only after one year! Why would I stop practicing it? It now also stands out so much, how my beautiful wife, Ninin has always (and right in front of my face for 13 years) naturally been in the flow of Giving & Receiving all along, but I needed the MKE to show me. The Law goes like this:


THE LAW OF GIVING AND RECEIVING

Wherever I go, I bring a gift. I may bring a compliment, a prayer, a trinket, a flower. But I promise I give something to every person I encounter. I promise to be a grateful receiver of the gifts that surround me, pausing often and noticing nature, kindness, smiles, compliments which I gladly receive with a thank you. I promise to give hope for joy, affluence, kindness and love consciously with every encounter, regardless of the brevity. I promise to give without the expectation of reciprocity from the channels I enrich, because I know I am in The Dynamic Flow of Giving & Receiving.




This daily habitual reading has helped me to:


GIVE WITHOUT THE EXPECTATION OF RECIPROCITY: When I first heard this, I found it hard to swallow, because I believe that not only myself, but the majority of society are taught that we should be rewarded when we do something. I know I did for years – “Eat your brussel sprouts Darren, there’s a good boy and you’ll get some dessert”. “Study hard and you’ll get a gold star on your report card.” I did all that for years and I had always expected something in return, even if it was just a pat on the back or acknowledgement to satisfy my (at the time) insecure ego.


GIVE SOMETHING TO EVERYONE YOU COME ACROSS DURING THE DAY: A gift, a hug, a cup of tea, coffee, a compliment or even just a smile. I actually didn’t find this hard to do, and coupling this with the practice of kindness, this was ok for me to keep doing and improving on.


BEING A GRATEFUL RECEIVER OF THE GIFTS THAT SURROUND ME: I had heard about practicing gratitude and I thought “yeah, yeah, whatever”. Often I was too focused on the past and present and missing out so much on “The Now”. I also had a hard time receiving compliments and gifts, no matter how much I gave to others.


Wow, was I blocking the flow. It is so cool to look back now and appreciate my journey. I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR EVERYTHING that has happened to me, including all my mistakes, 30 years of depression, a relationship breakup, child custody battles and more. Of course there was heaps of good stuff in there, but I am grateful for all of it.


Being a grateful receiver and practicing a simple “Thank You” is so powerful when you live it. We deal with some beautiful people who look after the homeless and they are definitely heart warming Go-Givers, but I’m not sure that they are in the flow of receiving.


A very good mate of mine passed away from a heart attack earlier this year and I was pleasantly surprised and proud of myself how emotionally strong and composed I was compared to some of my other great friends. It felt really good. And I would have normally been pretty emotional and sad for months. I accepted it far quicker than I would have imagined, and I felt ok about it. After all I know he wouldn’t have wanted me to be sad for months, just as I wouldn’t want others to be sad over my passing. The MKE helped me through it, no doubt about it. I know I am simply becoming more and more connected to my authentic self – to the truth. It’s really, really cool.


It didn’t happen overnight, but it’s happening. Why would I want to stop doing ANY of the MKE habits?


Success is Service


Grateful