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Private Subconscious Therapy
Are You Suited To This Approach? People don’t seek emotional change unless on some level they want to achieve a successful outcome. However PST Therapists are trained to respect their client’s non-conscious desires and needs, as well as their more obvious conscious level ones. For anxiety relief, stress relief, anger management etc. session-work should not proceed unless you understand some important things and you are comfortable with them. The following checklist is provided to give you an understanding of these imperatives. It should help you assess your suitability for this work and desire to proceed.
“Am I comfortable not talking about my symptoms or problems?” You already have the most accurate and detailed information regarding your problems and the ability to privately deal with them at your subconscious level. Out of respect for this, conscious level discussion about you and your problems will be kept to a bare minimum. This is a ‘FEELING-oriented’ and not a ‘talking-oriented’ approach. Many of our past clients who have presenting problems like anxiety symptoms and signs of depression are so relieved of this. They are sick of talking about them.
“Can I accept that my subconscious knows what’s wrong?” This therapy helps you deal with the underlying CAUSE of your problems. Don’t be surprised if your practitioner seems not to want to know about any presenting symptoms that may have unconsciously developed from that cause.
“Can I accept that any memories I have may not be relevant? “ This is a “feeling” therapy not a “thinking or talking” approach. Time spent consciously discussing recalled memories or past experiences is actually counterproductive with this type of work. No "facing your demons".
“Will I be able to let go of the need to try and make things happen?” You must be prepared to give up the effort of trying to “make change happen”. Your practitioner is skilled at guiding and helping you to achieve a permissive “let it happen” level of operation. This is the appropriate way to allow for subconscious change.
“Will I be able to accept that my practitioner will not want information on any changes brought about during the three sessions?” Both during and after the completion of the sessions, your practitioner will not seek to know about the outcome. This work introduces a new response learning at unconscious level; the results of this new learning need to be observed over time.
“Can I let go of the conditioned belief that sessions have to keep going on and on until the therapist says it’s completed?” The unconscious re-learning or reframing process is usually gentle, rapid and permanent. In almost all cases, this requires only three contact sessions for anxiety relief, stress relief and signs of depression etc.
“Will I be comfortable with the idea that the subconscious re-learns in its own way, and that I must trust my unconscious to bring about change?” Your experience during and after the sessions may be profound or subtle, immediate or gradual, recalled or below the level of awareness or a combination of these. This is why your practitioner doesn’t seek feedback in-session, and why the subsequent contact a few months after treatment is so important in verifying the ongoing nature of long-term success that clients experience with this approach.
“NO TALKING - What does it mean?” Private Subconscious Therapy applies a unique approach in regards to this aspect.
As you will no doubt be aware, it is common belief, that to fix emotional problems, one needs to talk to an “expert” about his or her concerns. This “expert” usually then analyzes that information, and a plan or approach is put in place to deal with the clients’ concerns. But this is always a “conscious-analytical” approach.
Additionally and unfortunately too many times, drugs are administered with the intent to simply manage the symptoms, as opposed to resolving the cause.
What we are saying in PST is, that the causal problem of your discomforts is not any presenting symptoms (such as depression, anxiety, anger), but “a feeling” that lies within the subconscious mind. This feeling “was learned” in a negative way at some stage in your life. And it is unexplainable verbally from any experts-conscious-analysing, as well as client-conscious-analysing.
Infant Learning’s Substantially Influence How We React to Situations Later in Life.
When we are babies, we are learning only in a feeling way. We are not utilizing thoughts yet, as our conscious analyzing mind doesn’t even start to develop until we are about 18 months old (and fully develops around the age of 20 years old). So we don’t yet have the ability to assess situations rationally. But we certainly can feel.
It is in this critical pre-verbal period that our “Feeling Self” is forming from all stressful (and even non-stressful) situations.
Let’s say for example a 3-month-old baby experiences a plate smashing on the floor for the first time and it is scared to the point of frantic crying. The baby cries and cries until it receives comfort from a parent or carer.
Now, because as adults we are experienced in situations like the plate smashing, we are well aware that this event was not as bad as the baby made it out to be, but it certainly was real for the baby “at that time”. The loud noise of the plate smashing was perceived as a stressful event and an encoded-feeling-memory was stored into the baby’s subconscious mind.
This is just one example of many events (good and bad) that go on to form a babies feeling self.
And this is the main focus of what PST helps people do – Re-learn any past uncomfortable learned feelings.
So, In Summary:
Many events (good and bad) create our feeling self in the pre-verbal timeframe of approximately 22 weeks into gestation to about 18 months old.
Our feeling self was formed in a time that we are unable to assess things from a rational point of view.
ALL feeling memories are encoded into our subconscious mind.
Only your subconscious has knowledge of this uncomfortable feeling and only your subconscious knows how to fix it.
We hope you can now see why we promote the no talking approach. We simply guide you to remind your subconscious mind of the ability it has to do its own healing and also the fact that because these negative feelings were learned, they can be re-learned.
“What are the ideal time intervals between sessions?” The “ideal” session spacings would be anything between 1-2 days. The DIY program is available to you for one week and the guided method allows you 2 weeks. Both time frames gives you plenty of time and custom times can be arranged if required.
"What makes this approach different?” PST is VERY different. True, there exist some similarities in CONTENT, but there are many differences in the CONTEXT of approach to the therapy. All successful therapy relies on a client taking back responsibility and empowerment, and the reflective, no-talk approach of this work ensures that like no other. A ‘catalytic release’ as described by more demonstrative therapeutic approaches is unnecessary and may even be counter-productive in this work.
“How does PST compare to hypnotherapy?” Clinical hypnotherapy relies almost entirely on a therapist’s assessment of a client’s symptoms and subsequent “re-programming” of the sub-conscious in an authoritative way that leads AWAY from those important human innate re-balancing abilities. PST strives for the opposite. The experience of subconscious re-framing is one of gentle guidance to allow, rather than insist on selective attention to affect states: – not unlike selective meditation, mindfulness, prayer, or even daydreaming. Simple and gentle, yet effective.
“Is PST good for my ………?”
If there is ANYTHING in your life about which you are uncomfortable, or you realize you are being prevented from reaching your full potential in any way, this can almost always be attributed to early learned emotional response patterns. Many people have been surprised at the changes experienced to areas of their life OTHER THAN what they originally sought therapy for. Sports people and other performers have “freed-up”, executives have been able to make better stress-free decisions, and even those with true physically-generated symptoms and problems have found greater acceptance and peace.
In short, the above question has no definitive answer other than, “who of us has not learned habitual responses in our lives that could do with re-learning?”
“How long are the sessions?” Your first One-on-One session may take anything between 1 ½ to 2 hours with subsequent sessions taking 50 to 60 minutes each.
“Can I stop my medication?” That’s entirely up to how YOU eventually feel about that, perhaps in line with your doctor’s opinion. A responsible PST Therapist will not interfere with the relationship between you and your medico, but always be aware that if you seek clarification from the same doctor that prescribed that medication for you, it is not in his or her best interests to admit that your medication will no longer be needed. Our advice is to seek out medical practitioners that respect your wishes.
“What do I have to do after the therapy?” Nothing. You will be encouraged to “let it happen” and be discouraged from trying to analyze the sessions’ proceedings. PST asks that you, for once, trust your subconscious.
“What if I don’t think I experience RELEASE during the sessions?” As expressed above, popular misconception in our therapeutic society is that ‘release’ must be experienced during session work. PST works on the basis that the unconscious learns its own private reframing and re-learning skills without necessarily focusing on any consciously-registered ‘release’. In fact, it has been shown that the desire to consciously experience release has in some cases been the very thing that sabotages subtle and ongoing change at subconscious level.
“Will I have flashes of painful old memories?” Not necessarily so, and if you seem to, it may be the conscious awareness only of an aspect of self that wants to AVOID change. In any case, the encouragement for you to revive trauma – authentic or inauthentic – is an old psychoanalytic regressive method. We don’t do that. In reality, most people proceed through this therapy experiencing little more than subtle feelings during session work.
How Does It Work?
Our subconscious is always making the decisions for us approximately 7 seconds before we think.
With the study of neuroscience we know that the amygdala and hippocampus are the primary regions of the “limbic brain system” where feelings and emotional reactive information memory are stored. The limbic system is responsible for the messages that are sent through the nervous system to every cell, organ and every other system in the body. The role of the neocortex in generating thought is relatively slower in comparison to the limbic brain and subsequently is almost always hijacked by the immediate operation of the limbic-feeling-system.
So, we more often than not react with our feelings to something before we “consciously” and rationally think about it.
Everyone has the ability to resolve emotionally caused problems, however most people don’t realize it. Physically, our body “automatically” attends to all sorts of healing after we are injured. Our mind has the same ability to rebalance emotionally stressful situations, but sometimes the stress is too much. We may try many things to right the wrong but sometimes we just get “stuck” so we need some help.
The Subconscious is designed to protect us and in doing this, it has done its job well. It sometimes buries the problem because otherwise we could not cope with it. But over time, things happen later that trace back by way of an affect bridge to “that learned feeling memory” and hidden feelings begin to affect us (symptoms like anxiety and signs of depression) to let us know that something needs attention.
Your health may breach at your Weakest Point.
The Solution – Session Work:
By the use of words that transport ideas and especially those words charged with “feeling”, your subconscious uses its natural ability to always “search for meaning” by way of a Trans-derivational Search and start to search for the problem. (TDS is a method we utilize all the time to access our stored memories and learnings – without even being consciously aware that we are doing it).
Once the problem is located, the subconscious is asked to view the situation from a more mature point of view, or a “now to then” point of view and make the adjustments necessary to create positive and lasting change. This occurs automatically and no matter what the conscious mind is doing.
This unique method of therapy helps you to use your own built in balancing mechanism to relieve a number of symptoms having an underlying feeling cause.
What Happens in Therapy?
The 3 session program is usually conducted within 2 to 3 days when on a one-on-one basis.
The initial consultation is approximately 1½ hours, where the therapist will first explain a lot more about Private Subconscious Therapy and answer any questions you may have. This is followed by the first of the three ‘eyes closed sessions’, which is simply an experience of assisted “self-attention”. Sessions 2 and 3 are approximately 50 to 60 minutes each and are usually held back-to-back on the same day, ideally 1 to 2 sleeps after the first session. This is not critical however and is often suited around the clients own routine and booking availability. For people travelling from afar, the 3 sessions can all be held in one day.
PST therapists regard their program as “just one session broken into three parts,” but for the sake of simplicity the work is described as a “3-session program”.
There Is Everything You Need Within The 3 Sessions.
What Happens In The Sessions?
The whole aim of this method is to resolve the emotional CAUSE of any present and uncomfortable symptoms you may be focusing on and to help your subconscious mind learn how to respond to things in different ways than before. So don’t be surprised if your practitioner discourages you to talk about any symptoms that you may be focusing on. It is this challenging concept that makes this therapy so successful.
Unlike many other therapies, your practitioner will do most of the talking as opposed to going to a psychologist or counsellor for example. It is important to remember is that this program is much about “psycho-education” as it is about “psycho-therapy”.
In session one, you are helped to fully understand a number of very important facts; 1: Why this work is about your feelings and not your thoughts or any particular event in your life. 2; How we all have the ability to change unconscious affect (feeling or emotional) response patterns by privately re-assessing old outdated affect learnings. 3; And why you must do this in the privacy of your subconscious mind without any intervention from the practitioner, other than a skilful guidance through this inner process.
Once the client is comfortable with the different but unique concepts, session work can begin. This introduction is designed to show you how easy this is, as ‘insight mindfulness’ or ‘self-attention’ is a natural state available to us all with a little guidance.
Sessions two and three mainly involve this subconscious ‘inner re-learning work’, with no emphasis on reviving or experiencing past events. It’s a fact that we are all constantly taking on information at levels we’re not consciously aware of; just look at the effect advertising and marketing have on us at times! It doesn’t matter what you consciously think happens during these sessions, what is really important is what happens afterwards as a result of the subconscious communication and learning that took place.
Sitting in a comfortable chair, the practitioner talks to the client as the client does “nothing in particular at all”, meanwhile the subconscious re-learnings take place. Everyone relaxes in their own way and there is no particular state of relaxation that the client has to experience to achieve positive change. Some people find it hard to relax, but it doesn’t matter. Unlike many other therapies this method is a “Let it Happen” approach and NOT a “Make it Happen” approach.
So, no matter what the conscious mind is doing during session work, the clients’ subconscious mind will always be listening and receives the information in a new productive light. The spoken word from the practitioner assists the client to utilize their subconscious and its natural ability to always “search for meaning” via Trans-derivational Search, which will start to search for the problem and then go about fixing it.
Q: Do you want to change from your current emotional state? A: You are here on this website, so you must. Q: Do you have the ability to change your mind? A: Of course you do, we all do, we change our minds about things all the time. Q: Why do we change our minds? A: We usually change our minds once we are given new information. And THAT is what this program is all about. We simply give you new information so your subconscious can change its mind where is needed. So, from here it is up to you to make up your own mind.